Feedback is not always helpful, kind, or even worth your energy. In a toxic or unwelcoming culture, it can be downright mean-spirited. In these environments, treat feedback as a data point, not a gift.
Your self-confidence is at stake, so it’s crucial to actively choose the messages you focus on. Take feedback, hold it up to the light, and evaluate it objectively.
Ask yourself:
- Is now the right time to process this?
- Does it help me grow?
- What insights can I glean from this?
You don’t have to internalize feedback immediately - or ever. It’s okay to process it now, later, or not at all.
Your well-being comes first. If you’re worn down and depleted, you’re no good to yourself, your team, or the organization.
By choosing which messages to focus on, you can problem-solve, build resilience, and ultimately find your best fit - whether you stay or go.